Red flags on Tinder that I’m going to stop ignoring

Red flags on Tinder that I’m going to stop ignoring

When it comes to Tinder, the difference between swiping right or left can be something as insignificant as someone not smiling in their pictures. Most of the time, whether or not you swipe right for someone is down to your preference, but there are also a few red flags that you need to watch out for too.

Here are 5 things you should avoid when you’re out lurking on the Tinder app: 

  1. They’re Overly Specific About Body Types

One of the strangest things you can do on a dating app is make a public declaration of the body types you will and will not talk to. Sure, it's natural to have a “type” and to only match with people you are physically attracted to. However, it's another thing entirely to be super public about your internalized body-phobias and/or possible racism. If you match with a someone who says they’re only into white women, or short women, or fit girls, maybe it's time to unmatch.

2. You're Not Sure Which Person They Are

If all their photos are group photos, and you’re never 100% sure which one they are, keep in mind that they’re being vague in their profile for a reason. That reason may or may not include that they’re catfishing you or those photos were taken 10 years ago. Either way, it is strange to only post group photos on a dating app, since you’re just trying to date one of them; not the entire squad. (I assume.)

3. All Their Pictures Look Different

In addition to that last point, if they look extremely different in all of their photos, the reality is they’re probably a 50-year-old man living down the street from you or a simple Tinder bot trying to scam you. If you can’t get a good sense of how they look from their photos due to lighting, and angles, ask yourself why they’re so eager to dupe you into not being clear on how they’re look in person.

4. They Mention Their Ex Almost Immediately

Tinder is the battleground where recently single people go to find new love and new lust. If your Tinder match immediately brings up their ex, take it as a sign that you can either dive headfirst into that emotional baggage — or walk away. If they’re comfortable enough to tell you about their ex immediately, imagine how it’ll feel on a date with them for hours as they non-stop relive the highs and lows of their relationship with you.

5. They Demand Too Much Too Soon
No matter what your reasons for using Tinder are, the reality is that no one should be pushing you to see your bits and pieces until you’ve met in person. If your Tinder match is immediately pressuring you to send them naked photos of yourself, it is time to back away. 

I wish I could tell you that online dating is easy, and that just these 5 tips will help you avoid all the crazies on them. However, it's important to keep in mind that online dating has become less about connecting and more about noticing the surface appeal of a potential date. The reality is, there's no way to know if someone is right or wrong for you on Tinder unless you give it a shot. If you prefer in-person interaction we suggest coming out to Flourish Media Conference to seek out some eye candy, or maybe one of our ladies will put in a word for you to someone they know. It’s not all strictly business at FMC, we know how to have fun too!

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