Personality Traits I Want To See In My Lover

Personality Traits I Want To See In My Lover

According to men’s health Magazine: “Not surprisingly, we found that women value personality far more than physical attractiveness. Despite all those hours you might be spending in the gym, only 13 percent of women cited muscular build as a factor in hotness. On the other hand, 66 percent of women said moral integrity will “make me quiver."

That is incredibly true! So with that being said here are my personal top 10 traits. Can you men stack up? 


  • While some of us are naturally brainier than others, a new study from the Hanken School of Economics in Finland suggests that the smarter the man, the less likely he is to be unfaithful. According to the research, more intelligent men are more likely to get married and stay married. I personally love someone I can learn from. A man being more intelligent in certain things is never intimidating. It’s a blessing to have someone that can aid your growth. 

Fully Honest

  • No one wants to be with someone that can’t be straightforward or someone that is unfaithful. Even if mistakes are made it’s best to be fully honest about them. No partner will ever be perfect but they should respect you enough to be honest at all times. 

Self Disciplined

Life is a constant journey of self-development as the world revolves around us. We cannot sit idly by and stop evolving, ourselves, unless we want to be left behind. You must be disciplined enough to create boundaries for yourself and reach those personal goals. I understand this is a looming reality and can be a bit intimidating. I think the truth of life is that the more skills we can acquire through, the more knowledge we can amass, and the more we can utilize these tools to help others and improve : Discipline helps us reach fulfillment.


  • ALL human beings experience sadness, fear, frustration, anger, joy, and everything in between. A lot of men are taught from a young age to ‘man up’ when we feel hurt or sadness. In other words: Don’t show your emotions. Don’t feel them. Don’t acknowledge them. And, certainly, don’t express them. This is a problem. You have to express inorder to successfully communicate. Without expressiveness, there’s no real communication, without real communication, there is no long term relationship. 


  • If your man is trying to change you, then he isn't the man for you. Women should be looking for a man who instead encourages self growth and improvement. Someone who accepts you for your core qualities, but pushes you to become the best YOU!

Good Sense of Humor

  • I don’t know about you but I love to laugh, a lot! Finding someone you can have a laugh with is crucial - even if everyone else rolls their eyes at his jokes or goofiness, if they crack you up, that’s all that matters.


  • Pay attention. Women (at least me) feel safe and secure when I know my husband will put down his phone and listen. Magic words: "I'm here. Tell me everything." He doesn’t just listen, feedback and engagement is key. 


  • It's sort of a cliché at this point, but women are looking for a guy who's not afraid of commitment. Three out of four women (75 percent) say they look for a man who's good at follow-through. Being responsible—even if it's just remembering to pick up salad dressing on your way over to her place—sends a positive signal that you're ready for commitment.

Shares Same Values

  • Having a similar outlook in life could be crucial to a successful relationship. Your personalities don’t necessarily have to be alike. As long as your vision about solutions and lifestyle decisions are similar it is great! You and your partner will share similar approaches to everything from socialising to working if your priorities are the same, and this is likely to lead to a greater level of respect for one another. 

Career Supportive 

  • THIS IS SO VITAL! A study found that husbands were a deciding factor in two-thirds of women’s decisions to quit their jobs, often because they thought it was their duty to bring up their children. Therefore, a man that supports your career path or purpose and encourages you to pursuit it is a keeper! Your partner should never attempt to hold you back from achieving your goals. Personally, my husband does an amazing job at supporting and working around my schedule. 

While some of these traits may come off as basic, it’s very important not to settle for less. A man who’s willing to match our energy should make you feel equal, loved, and secure. Boss ladies, Flourish Media Conference is coming up soon next month. Does your partner understand the importance in investing in your personal & professional life? 

Flourish Media Conference is women focused but, men friendly. There’s a lot to gain from attending events like these. Bring your check list and test it out in Miami!

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